The
"Do Something" Principle
I‘ve been working with self development advice for a large
percentage of my life. I’ve come across a lot of concepts and ideas as well as
invented quite a few of my own. But the following is one of the most important
ideas I’ve stumbled across in my life:
Action isn’t just the effect of motivation, but also the
cause of it.
Most people only commit to action if they feel a certain
level of motivation. And they only feel motivation when they feel an emotional
inspiration.
People only become motivated to study for the exam when
they’re afraid of the consequences. People only pick up and learn that
instrument when they feel inspired by the people they can play for.
And we’ve all slacked off for lack of motivation before.
Especially in times where we shouldn’t. We
feel lethargic and apathetic towards a certain goal that we’ve set for
ourselves because we lack the motivation and we lack the motivation because we
don’t feel any overarching emotional desire to accomplish something.
Emotional Inspiration → Motivation → Desirable Action
But there’s a problem with operating under this framework:
often the changes and actions we most need in our lives are inspired by
negative emotions which simultaneously hinder us from taking action.
If someone wants to fix their relationship with their
mother, the emotions of the situation (hurt, resentment, avoidance) completely
go against the necessary action to fix it (confrontation, honesty,
communication). If someone wants to lose weight, but experiences massive
amounts of shame about their body, then the act of going to the gym is apt to
inspire in them the exact emotions that kept them at home on the couch in the
first place. Past traumas, negative expectations, and feelings of guilt, shame
and fear often motivate us away from the actions necessary to overcome those
very traumas, negative expectations, and negative emotions.
It’s a Catch-22 of sorts. But the thing about the motivation
chain is that it’s not only a three-part chain, but an endless loop:
Inspiration → Motivation → Action → Inspiration → Motivation → Action → Etc.
Your actions create further
emotional reactions and inspirations and move on to motivate your future
actions. Taking advantage of this knowledge, we can actually re-orient our
mindset in the following way:
Action → Inspiration → Motivation
The conclusion is that if you lack the motivation to make an
important change in your life, then do
something, anything really, and then harness the reaction to that action as
a way to begin motivating yourself.
I call this The “Do
Something” Principle.
What I found is that often once they did something, even the
smallest of actions: such as chatting with the bartender for a moment, or
asking someone for the time, or even walking to the dance floor and dancing
alone for a minute, it would soon give them the inspiration and motivation to
do something else. They had sent a signal to themselves, “OK, I did that, I
guess I can do more.” And slowly we could take it from there.
Over the years, I’ve applied the “Do Something” Principle in
my own life as well.
The most obvious example is running this website and my
business ventures online. I work for myself. I don’t have a boss telling me
what to do and not to do. I also often have to take major calculated risks in
which I’m personally invested, both financially and emotionally (spending
months writing a book, rebranding my entire website, etc.). It’s been
nerve-wracking at times, and major feelings of doubt and uncertainty arise. And
when no one is around to push you, sitting around and watching TV reruns all
day can quickly become a more appealing option.
The first couple months I worked for myself, entire weeks
would go by without accomplishing much for no other reason than I was anxious
and stressed about what I had to do, and it was too easy to put it off. I
quickly learned that forcing myself to do something, even the most menial of
tasks, quickly made the larger tasks seem much easier. If I had to redesign an
entire website, then I’d force myself to sit down and would say, “OK, I’ll just
design the header right now.” But after the header was done, I’d find myself
moving on to other parts of it. And before I knew it, I’d be energized and
engaged in the project.
I also use this regularly in my
own life. If I’m about to tackle a large project that I’m anxious about, or if
I’m in a new country and I need
to give myself a little push to get out and meet people, I apply the Do
Something Principle. Instead of expecting the moon, I just
decide, “OK, I’ll start on the outline,” or “OK, I’ll just go out and have a
beer and see what’s going on.” The mere action of doing this almost always
spurs me on.
Inevitably, the appropriate action occurs at some point or
another. The motivation is natural. The inspiration is genuine. It’s an overall
far more pleasant way of accomplishing my goals.
“If you don’t know
how to do a problem, start writing something down, your brain will begin to
figure it out as you go.” And sure enough, to this day, this seems to be true.
The mere action itself inspires new thoughts and ideas which lead us to solving
the problems in our lives. But that new insight never comes if we simply sit
around contemplating it.
You may
recognize this concept among other self-help writings in different guises. I’ve
seen it mentioned in terms such as “failing forward” or “ready, fire, aim.” But
no matter how you frame it to yourself, it’s an extremely useful mindset and
habit to adopt. The more time goes on, the more I realize that success in
anything is tied less to knowledge or talent, and tied more to action
supplemented by knowledge and talent. You can become successful at something
without knowing what you’re doing. You can become successful at something
without having much particular talent at it. But you can never become
successful at anything without taking action. Ever.
By Geocklyn
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